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How is it that while a wife is missing her husband, if it is even for ticks, someone can say something so rude and hurtful? People just dont seem to understand that while their lives moved on everyday, pushing forward to something new, but with the security of their loved ones by their sides, so do ours when our loved ones are away. Ours, a lot of times, have to move forward without our best friends at our sides. They move forward with new babies born without daddies there (sometimes on the phone or webcam), steps taken without those proud eyes shining on them, and first words are said but not heard because on the other side of the world or in the midst of an oh so important field problem, is someone who loves them more than anything, but can't be there to witness those things.
When something good happens, I want to call Josh. When something scary happens, I want Josh. When something sad happens, I just want Josh to hold me. Remember most of us when we are sad want our husbands, but in the case of a deployment our husbands being absent is what makes us sad. We are reminded of that when we do a load of laundry and a child has worn his shirt to bed. We are reminded when we see ticks, flies, cockroaches, bees anything we dont usually deal with. We are reminded everytime we open our eyes and everytime we close our eyes. For me everytime I looked at my oldest, I saw Josh. We can not let our sadness overcome us. It does no good to anyone involved. We have to be happy and make life enjoyable for those around us, especially the kids. The kids are sad and hurt enough without seeing Mommy cry all the time. The ones left at home have to put on the "Big Girl Panties" and suck it up, drink water, and march on. How someone can say, without knowing you, that you don't love your husband beyond all things is crazy. Most of us sit here and wait for those phone calls, those "DING DONGS" online, or a little voice saying "MOMMY DADDY IS ONLINE HURRY UP!!!"
What are we supposed to do when they aren't there??? We find other outlets. Outlets that include a whole lot of silliness and craziness and fun and comraderie with friends who are there with you in this crazy life.
While our husbands go off and do their jobs, we have a job to do too. That job is a job that no one understands unless you have lived and breathed it. To take care of a husband 1000s of miles away is a challenge like one I have never experienced before that. Even as they are 1000s of miles away, we do our best to console them when things happen, we do our best to make sure they don't get sick, we do our best to send loving letters/emails as often as possible without getting anything in return, and we do our best to make sure their every need is met. To console a little breaking heart as they miss their daddy is a never ending job. To console a little breaking heart as they realize one of their "Uncles" will never come home is not fun. To make life as remarkable and make as many happy memories for your entire family while seperated...husband, kids, and yourself is an everyday job. Then on top of it all, you have to make sure to take care of yourself. For all of you who really don't think that millitary wives love their husbands when they are gone because they are joking about life experiences that are happening in the present time...ask to borrow a pair of their shoes. I am sure they would be more than happy to lend you a pair for a week. Then maybe your heart will have a different perspective on what it really entails to be a military wife. Hopefully you will be a little less quick to judge the laughter that hides the tears.
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